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Seriously, ask me anything. I always respond. Other than that, I am what the blog shows: I fight for mens, womens, gays, trans rights for gender equality, I am a firearm supporter, have issues with authority, love my pit bulls, have issues with kettles refusing to notice the pots, and I am rather open about my geekier hobbies (minecraft, indie games, and pokemon anyone?).

http://www.waff.com/story/29671444/woman-accused-of-getting-13-year-old-boy-drunk-raping-him?clienttype=generic

ferventfox:

oratorasaurus:

Statutory rape instead of rape charges? 

It appears the prosecutors went with statutory rape because Missouri law does not count males as potential rape victims. They could have charged Porter with sodomy, but that is a higher class felony. It seems the prosecutors chose the lowest charge they could given the evidence they have.

That is remarkable considering the victims claims Porter choked him, pinned him to the bed, and raped him. That is the stereotypical rape, yet the prosecutors still chose the statute with the lowest potential penalties.

It will be interesting to see if she’ll plead it down to something lesser before being sentenced. Which means in all likelihood she won’t see a day behind bars for forcibly raping a 13 year old.

It’s almost like the courts are giving women permission to do these things.

This is indicative of a true rape culture.

“…He made me feel very happy, I felt like I was loved for once, but I don’t think it was love. I think I was used” –an adult on their “relationship” with an actual child (emphasis mine)

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It is unfortunate that alleged perpetrators like this women resort to blaming the innocent boys on which they prey.

Then again, they do it because they believe the culture of misandry and discrimination against male victims and the feminist-perpetrated idea of women always being victims will protect them from the consequences of their crimes. 

(via ferventfox)

It is an amazing thing to see in our city the wife of a shoemaker, or a butcher, or a porter dressed in silk with chains of gold at the throat, with pearls and a ring of good value… and then in contrast to see her husband cutting the meat, all smeared with cow’s blood, poorly dressed, or burdened like an ass, clothed with the stuff from which sacks are made… but whoever considers this carefully will find it reasonable, because it is necessary that the lady, even if low born and humble, be draped with such clothes for her natural excellence and dignity, and that the man [be] less adorned as if a slave, or a little ass, born to her service.

Lucrezia Marinella of Venice, Italy, 1600, The Nobility and Excellence of Women Together With the Defects and Deficiencies of Men

40+ Empirical Studies that demonstrate that it is not rare or uncommon for women to use sexual coercive behavior towards men through sexual assaults, sexual intimidation, and sexual violence (i.e. rape)

A survey of unmarried college students at Rutgers University <204 women and 140 men> in which 29% of women and 14% of men reported that they “were forced to have intercourse against their will.”

  • Aizenman, M. & Kelley, G. (1988). The incidence of violence and acquaintance rape in dating relationships among college men and women. Journal of College Student Development, 29, 305-311. 


A sample of 212 women completed a 13-item Sexually Aggressive Behavior scale. Overall, “42.6% reported initiating sexual contact by using sexually aggressive strategies … and 7.1% reported using physical force.”

  • Anderson, P. B. (1996). Correlates of college women’s self-reports of heterosexual aggression. Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research and Treatment, 8, 121-131. 

In this survey of 461 college women, “between 26% and 43% of respondents reported engaging in strategies that would be traditionally defined as coercive if applied to male respondents.” Also, “20% of the women reported using physical force, 27% the threat of physical force, and 9% a weapon to obtain sexual contact with a male partner.”

  • Anderson, P. B. (1998). Women’s motives for sexual initiation and aggression. In P. B. Anderson & C. Struckman-Johnson (Eds.), Sexually aggressive women: Current perspectives and controversies, (pp. 79-93.) New York: Guildford. 


Findings from sample of 128 college men indicated “that 15.6% had experienced female sexual contact initiated by physical force, 15.6% by threat of force, and 4.7% by threat with a weapon.”

  • Anderson, P. B. & Aymami, R. (1993). Reports of female initiation of sexual contact: Male and female differences. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 22, 335-343.  


A college sample of 340 men and 362 women responded to a modified version of the Sexual Experience. Survey. Findings reveal that 14.9% of men and 24.9% of women “had engaged in sexual intercourse at least once when they did not want to because of psychological or verbal coercion.”

  • Baier, J. L., Rosenzweig, M. G. & Whipple, E. G. (1991). Patterns of sexual behavior, coercion and victimization of university students. Journal of College Student Development, 32, 310-322. 


In a sample of 505 college students <298 women, 207 men>, 9% of the men and 18% of the women reported sustaining sexual abuse. Abuse was defined as unwanted breast fondling, genital fondling, attempted intercourse and intercourse. 

  • Burke, P. J., Stets, J. E. & Pirog-Good, M. A. (1988). Gender identity, self-esteem, and physical and sexual abuse in dating relationships. Social Psychology Quarterly, 51, 272-285. 


Data were collected from Mormons between the ages of 14 and 19. In a sample of 636 males and 754 females, 5% of both genders reported that they “forced or pressured someone to engage in sexual activities.”

  • Chadwick, B. A. & Top, B. L. (1993). Religiosity and delinquency among LDS adolescents. Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion, 32, 51-67. 


Data were collected from 1,192 men and 2,742 women at a large Midwestern university. Subjects - who included undergraduates, graduates, faculty and staff - were assessed regarding unwanted sexual attention. Results indicate that 49% of women and 24% of men had experienced at least one unwanted sexual behavior.

  • Cochran, C. C., Frazier, P. A. & Olson, A. M. (1997). Predictors of responses to unwanted sexual attention. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 21, 207-226. 


In a sample of 1,198 students <610 boys, 488 girls>, 18% of females and 12% of males reported having an unwanted sexual experience. Authors report that “of the ethnic groups, Asians (7%) reported having had an unwanted sexual experience less frequently than non-Hispanic white (16%), Hispanic (16%) or black (19%) students.”

  • Erickson, P. I., Rapkin, D. P. H. & Rapkin, A. J. (1991). Unwanted sexual experiences among middle and high school youth. Journal of Adolescent Health, 12, 319-325. 


A 12 item inventory, designed to assess mild, moderate and severe forms of sexual coercion, was administered to 182 college men. Results reveal that 70% of subjects responded to at least one item reflecting sexual coercion within past five years. Younger men were more likely than older men to report being sexually coerced.

  • Fiebert, M. S. & Tucci, L. M. (1998). Sexual coercion: Men victimized by women. Journal of Men’s Studies, 6 (2) 127-133. 


Thirty-seven male and 36 female college students responded to continuum of sexual coercion as portrayed in six vignettes that presented both genders as aggressors and victims. Male participants saw the sexual advances as more coercive when the victim was female, while female participants saw the advances as more coercive when the victim was male.

  • Garcia, L., Milano, L. & Quijano, A. (1989). Perceptions of coercive sexual behavior by males and females. Sex Roles, 21, 569-577. 


In a sample of 138 female and 57 male college students, 65% of the women and 38.5% of the men reported being victims of unwanted sexual behavior by their heterosexual partners. For example, 20.4% of women and 10.5% of men indicated that they were sexually coerced, 23.4% of women and 10.5% of men revealed that they were raped, and 6.6% of women and 10.5% of men reported that they were victims of attempted rape. Authors state that, “all but one of the rape experiences reported by men involved having unwanted intercourse because someone gave them alcohol or drugs.”

  • Hannon, R., Kuntz, T., Van Laar, S. & Williams, J. (1996). College students’ judgments regarding sexual aggression during a date. Sex Roles, 35, 765-778. 


The Sexual Experience questionnaire was administered to 214 students <113 women, 101 men>, and 79% of women and 52% of men reported “having at least once been coerced by a partner sexually.”

  • Hogben, M., Byrne, D. & Hamberger, M. E. (1996). Coercive heterosexual sexuality in dating relationships of college students: Implications of differential male-female experiences. Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality, 8, 69-78. 


A sample of 398 undergraduates <171 men, 227 women> at an eastern university responded to items assessing sexual coercion. Results indicate that 71% of females compared to 45% of males indicated that they were subjected to at least one sexually coercive strategy that did not result in intercourse while 35% of women and 24% of men reported being victims of at least one coercive strategy that resulted in intercourse. Nineteen percent of men and 20% of women reported being victims of sexual coercion, which resulted in unwanted sex, because their partner got them drunk or stoned.

  • Lottes, I. L. (1991). The relationship between nontraditional gender roles and sexual coercion. Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality, 4(4) 89-109. 

A sample of 570 Swedish students <211 men, 359 women and 407 U.S. students <129 men, 278 women> responded to items assessing sexual coercion. Results indicate that 50% of U.S. men compared to 22% of Swedish men were subjected to at least one sexually coercive strategy; 69% of U.S. women compared to 41% of Swedish women reported that they were subjected to at least one sexually coercive strategy.

  • Lottes, I. L. & Weinberg, M. S. (1996). Sexual coercion among university students: A comparison of the United States and Sweden. Journal of Sex Research, 34, 67-76. 


Reviews issues relevant to male victims of female sexual aggression and suggests treatment approaches. 

  • Macchietto, J. G. (1998). Treatment issues of adult male victims of female sexual aggression. (Pp. 187-204) In P. B. Anderson & C. Sturckman-Johnson (Eds.), Sexually Aggressive women: Current Perspectives and controversies. New York: Guildford. 


Responses to a vignette, in which one dating partner indicates that he/she doesn’t want to be kissed and the other partner doesn’t listen, was obtained from 194 female and 171 male university students. Results indicate that there was significantly more support for women to violate men’s sexual consent and less support for men than women to withhold sexual consent.

  • Margolin, L. (1990). Gender and the stolen kiss: The social support of male and female to violate a partner’s sexual consent in a noncoercive situation. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 19, 281-291. 


A sample of 182 <101 men, 81 women> second year medical students at a New Zealand University responded to items from a modified Sexual Experience Survey. Results indicate that similar proportions of men and women were victims of sexual coercion. Specifically, 26% of men and 31% of women reported that they were victims of “constant physical attempts to have sexual activity” by members of the opposite sex. Four percent of women and men were victimized by members of the same sex. Sixteen percent of women and 7% of men indicated that they were sexually coerced by partners who used some degree of physical force. More men (17%) than women (10%) reported that their partners “were so aroused they felt it was useless to stop (them) even though they did not want to have sexual intercourse.”

  • McConaghy, N. & Zamir, R. (1995). Heterosexual and homosexual coercion, sexual orientation and sexual roles in medical students. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 24, 489-502. 


A questionnaire examining unwanted sexual activity was administered to 507 men and 486 women. Findings reveal that 97.5% of women and 93.5% of men had experienced some form of unwanted sexuality activity with significantly more men (62.7%) than women (46.3%) reporting having engaged in unwanted sexual intercourse. The main reasons men engaged in unwanted sexual behavior compared to women were peer pressure and the desire for popularity.

  • Muehlenhard, C. L. & Cook, S. W. (1988). Men’s self reports of unwanted sexual activity. The Journal of Sex Research, 24, 58-72. 


In a sample of 485 single college students <230 men and 255 women>, 12% of the men and 29% of the women indicated that they had succumbed to “forced intercourse on a date." 

  • Murphy, J. E. (1988). Date abuse and forced intercourse among college students. In G. P. Hotaling, D. Finkelhor, J. T. Kirkpatrick & M. A. Straus (Eds.), Family Abuse and its Consequences: New Directions in Research (pp. 285-296). Beverly Hills, CA: Sage. 


In a sample of actively dating Canadian college students <99 men and 111 women> authors found that 56% of participants reported a disagreement, within the prior year, in which a woman attempted to influence a reluctant male partner to engage in sex. In response to male refusal, 29% of men indicated that their female partner behaved in a "noncompliant” sexually coercive manner.

  • O'Sullivan, L. F. & Byers, E. S. (1993). Eroding stereotypes: College women’s attempts to influence reluctant male sexual partners. Journal of Sex Research, 30, 270-282. 


A sample of high school students between the ages of 15 and 19 <336 girls and 308 boys responded to a modified Sexual Experience Survey. Here, 54.1% of girls and 13.1% of boys reported being victims of some form of sexual coercion; 14.3% of boys and 6.3% of girls reported initiating sexual coercion.

  • Poitras, M. & Lavoie, F. (1995). A study of the prevalence of sexual coercion in adolescent heterosexual dating relationships in a Quebec sample. Victims and Violence, 10, 299-313. 


One hundred female and 77 male college students indicated whether they had engaged in or responded to coercive sexual behaviors. Seventy four percent of women and 44% of men reported that they were victims of at least one coercive behavior perpetrated by their partners. For example, 22% of men and 34% of women indicated that their partners attempted to make them “feel inadequate.”

  • Poppen, P. J. & Segal, N. J. (1988). The influence of sex and sex role orientation on sexual coercion. Sex Roles, 19, 689-701. 


An aspect of sexual coercion was examined in a diverse sample of college students. Subjects consisted of 130 whites <58 men, 72 women>, 64 Blacks <32 men, 32 women>, and 34 Hispanics <24 men, 10 women>. Men were significantly more likely than women to report that their partners “pressured them for sex” and “got angry if refused.” This gender difference was present for Whites and Blacks but not for Hispanics.

  • Rouse, L. P. (1988). Abuse in dating relationships: A comparison of Blacks, Whites, and Hispanics. Journal of College Student Development, 29, 312-319. 


A sample of 656 college students <245 men, 411 women> completed the Sexual Experience Survey (SES). Twenty five percent of the women and 9% of the men reported being sexually victimized by their partners. As a specific finding, 4% of the women and 3% of the men reported anal or oral sexual victimization by force. 

  • Ryan, K. A. (1998). The relationship between courtship violence and sexual aggression in college students. Journal of Family Violence, 13, 377-394. 


Sexual behaviors and attitudes were examined in a sample of 247 college women and 161 college men. Of note is the finding that 25% of men and 48% of women responded affirmatively to the statement: “have you ever been sexually assaulted by a dating partner consisting of being touched, held, or kissed against your will?” In addition, 48% of the men and 74% of the women indicated that they had verbally been pressured to have sex by a dating partner.

  • Sandberg, G., Jackson, T. L. & Petretic-Jackson, P. (1987). College students’ attitudes regarding sexual coercion and aggression: Developing educational and preventive strategies. Journal of College Student Personnel 28, 302-311. 


In a pioneering study authors demonstrate, by citing 11 case studies, that it is possible for men to respond sexually when subjected to physical molestation by women.

  • Sarrel, P. & Masters, W. H. (1982). Sexual molestation of men by women. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 11, 117-131. 


In a survey of 504 college students <116 men, 388 women>, 34.8% of women and 20.9% of men reported being targets of sexual aggression by their partners. 

  • Sigelman, C. K., Berry, C. J. & Wiles, K. A. (1984). Violence in college students’ dating relationships. Journal of Applied Social Psychology, 5, 530-548. 

In a study of Sexual Coercion in which the sex of assailants and victims were manipulated, 77 male and 89 female college students made judgments about male and female victims of heterosexual and homosexual assault. Findings indicate that male victims of female sexual assaults were judged more likely to have encouraged the sexual acts, were assumed to have enjoyed it more and believed to be less stressed than other victims.

  • Smith, R. E., Pine, C. J. & Hawley, M. E. (1988). Social cognitions about adult male victims of female sexual assault. Journal of Sex Research, 24, 101-112. 


A representative sample study was conducted in Los Angeles in which 1,480 men were interviewed and 7.2% indicated that above the age of 16 they were sexually coerced. At most risk were white, college age men between the ages of 18 and 39, 16% of whom reported being sexually assaulted. Struckman-Johnson (1991) obtained additional analyses from Sorenson and her colleagues, which revealed that the majority of assaults on men were perpetrated by female acquaintances or lovers. The most prevalent coercive tactic was psychological pressure.

  • Sorenson, S. B., Stein, J. A., Siegel, J. M., Golding, J. M. & Burnam, M. A. (1987). The prevalence of adult sexual assault: The Los Angeles epidemiologic catchment area project. American Journal of Epidemiology, 126, 1154-1164. 


Found in a college sample of 118 males and 169 females that 22% of the men and 36% of the women reported being sexually abused by one or more dating partners during the past year. The most frequent coerced behavior for both men <18%> and women <19%> was “against my will my partner initiated necking." 

  • Stets, J. E. & Pirog-Good, M. S. (1989). Patterns of physical and sexual abuse for men and women in dating relationships: A descriptive analysis. Journal of Family Violence, 4, 63-76. 


A sample of 204 female and 113 male college students completed the CTS2. Nine of the 39 items explicitly dealt with sexual coercion. Results reveal that, within the past 12 months, 38% of the men experienced at least one instance of sexual coercion while 30% of the women experienced at least one instance of sexual coercion. In terms of perpetrated sexual coercion, 37% of the men and 18% of the women reported engaging in such behavior.

  • Straus, M. A., Hamby, S. L., Boney-McCoy, S. & Sugarman, D. B. (1996). The revised Conflict Tactics Scales (CTS2). Development and preliminary psychometric data. Journal of Family Issues, 17, 283-315. 


Participants in a survey examining forced sexual behavior were 355 female and 268 male college students. Author found that "22% of the women reported that they had been forced to engage in sexual intercourse on date at least once in their lifetime” and “16% of the men reported at least one forced sex episode in their lifetime.” Most men <52%> were coerced into sex by psychological pressure.

  • Struckman-Johnson, C. (1988). Forced sex on dates: It happens to men, too. Journal of Sex Research, 24, 234-241. 


A review article that examines prevalence rates of sexual assault on American men as well as discusses the dynamics and consequences of assaults on men. States that “our society has no place for the male victim of sexual assault” and that “our culture’s ignorance of male rape is compounded by the fact that most male victims do not report their experience to the police, health officials or even to friends and family." 

  • Struckman-Johnson, C. (1991). Male victims of acquaintance rape. In A. Parrot & L. Bechofer (Eds.), Acquaintance Rape, The Hidden Crime [pp. 192-214]. New York: Wiley.).  


A sample of 152 female and 152 male college students responded to a vignette in which they imagined an uninvited genital touch, either gentle or forceful, from either a male or female college acquaintance. Findings reveal that women anticipated strong negative effects from receiving a genital touch, whether gentle or forceful, while men anticipated little negative effect from a gentle or forceful touch from a female acquaintance. Both genders responded negatively to opposite gender touching.

  • Struckman-Johnson, C. & Struckman-Johnson, D. (1993). College men and women’s reactions to hypothetical sexual touch varied by initiator gender and coercion level. Sex Roles, 29, 371-385. 


A sample of 204 college men reported on experience of forced sexual touch or intercourse since age 16. Thirty-four percent of males reported at least one coercive episode, with 24% of subjects experiencing female contact only, 4% male contact, and 6% reporting both male and female contact. Unwanted sexual touching by women was reported by 23% of subjects and coercive intercourse was reported by 20% of subjects. The most commonly used coercive tactics were persuasion and intoxication.

  • Struckman-Johnson, C. & Struckman-Johnson, D. (1994a). Men pressured and forced into sexual experience. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 23, 93-114. 


A sample of 277 college men responded to a vignette in which they were to imagine receiving an uninvited sexual advance from a casual female acquaintance. The degree of coercion was varied as was the attractiveness of the female initiator. Results reveal that men had significantly more negative reactions to high levels of sexual coercion and more positive reactions to attractive initiators. 

  • Struckman-Johnson, C. & Struckman, D. (1994b). Men’s reactions to hypothetical female sexual advances: A beauty bias in response to sexual coercion. Sex Roles, 31, 387-405. 

A sample of 263 college men responded to a vignette in which they were to imagine receiving a forceful sexual advance from a woman. Results reveal that subjects responded more positively to the advance of an acquaintance than to a stranger. Authors state, "conditions known to promote positive reactions to hypothetical sexual advances are low force, high initiator sexual desirability, and high level of romantic relationship with initiator.”

  • Struckman-Johnson, D. & Struckman-Johnson, C. (1996). College Men’s reactions to hypothetical forceful advances from women. Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality, 8, 93-105. 


A sample of 142 college men responded to a vignette involving a moderately forceful sexual advance from a female casual acquaintance. The men’s sexual standards, relationship availability, and the attractiveness of the sexual initiator was studied. The majority of men reacted negatively to the coercive situation. More positive responses were obtained from men with less restrictive sexual standards, who had no girlfriend and who were told that the female initiator was attractive. Authors indicate that results offer support for their Sexual Opportunity Model.

  • Struckman-Johnson, C. & Struckman-Johnson, D. (1997). Men’s reactions to hypothetical forceful sexual advances from women: The role of sexual standards, relationship availability and the beauty bias. Sex Roles, 37, 319-333.  

In a sample of 314 college men, 43% reported having had at least one coercive sexual experience with a women since the age of 16. Thirty-six percent reported at least one incident of sexual touching and 27% reported at least one incident of sexual intercourse.

  • Struckman-Johnson, C. & Struckman-Johnson, D. (1998). The dynamics and impact of sexual coercion of men by women. In P. B. Anderson & C. Struckman-Johnson (Eds.), Sexually Aggressive Women: Current Perspectives and Controversies (pp. 121-143). New York: Guildford.  


A sample of 220 female and 202 male college students completed a survey examining unwanted sexual behavior as a function of 12 coercive techniques including intoxication, false promises, threats, and physical force. Men reported 457 incidents and women 628 incidents of unwanted sexual behavior. The most common techniques experienced by both genders were intoxication and persistent touching. Men were more likely than women to experience unwanted sexual behavior when their partners used blackmail. In general, authors found that women were coerced into more extreme sexual behaviors than men.  

  • Waldner-Haugrud, L. K. & Magruder, B. (1995). Male and female sexual victimization in dating relationships: Gender differences in coercion techniques and outcomes. Violence and Victims, 10, 203-215. 


A sample of 872 women and 527 men, ages 19-22, who were 90% Caucasian responded to items assessing how often intercourse occurred in response to “pressure.” Thirteen percent of men reported that they were pressured, while 22% of indicated that they were pressured.

  • Zweig, J. M., Barber, B. L. & Eccles, J. S. (1997). Sexual coercion and well-being in young adulthood. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 12, 291-308.

http://abclocal.go.com/kfsn/story?section=news%2Flocal&id=8940022

Not only was she not expecting to see jail even after pleading guilty to 6 felony charges, her attorney didn’t think she would see jail either.

Why?

Because, as the video states, other female teachers who have sex with minors, they typically only get probation at worse.

Luckily, the prosecutor seemed to know what’s what: "I think if we were talking about a 28-year-old man having sex with a 16-year-old student who is a child, his student, that would be pretty repulsive.“

But she still got off extremely lucky. 4 months out of what could have been a 26 year jail sentence (which men who have sex with minors typically get sentences nearer to the max). She also doesn’t have to register as a sex offender. Can you see how society and the justice system treats women as children, with white gloves on, as though women are fragile and need to be protected even they are the predators victimizing children?

http://equalitycanada.com/2013/09/24/media-advisory-support-rallies-to-mens-centre-lecture-after-university-mandates-students-pay-high-security-fee/

CAFE is delighted to disseminate the following public statement:

MEDIA ADVISORY – FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Support Rallies To “Men’s Centre” Lecture After University Mandates Students Pay High Security Fee
Canadian Association for Equality (CAFE) affiliated student group will proceed with Friday’s lecture at U of T

TORONTO, ONTARIO — (September 23, 2013) The University of Toronto Men’s Issues Awareness Society received overwhelming financial support after announcing the administration was mandating the group pay $964 for campus police or risk having their Friday event cancelled. At previous events rioters had committed illegal acts including pulling fire alarms and blocking exit doors.

“This campus group is sparking a positive and vital dialogue about gender on campus,” said Malcolm Johnston, CAFE Spokesperson. “We are excited to announce that the Miles Groth event will proceed this Friday, thanks to support from the many men and women who stepped up to donate. They understand that rewarding law-breaking rioters by cancelling events of which they disapprove will only lead to increased censorship and risk making the U of T a more dangerous place.”

Groups opposing the “men’s issues” agenda, including the University of Toronto Student Union (UTSU), will host a series of events this week calling for a “militant feminist” response to CAFE’s peaceful educational programs. While the UTSU uses mandatory levies charged to all students to fund gender-focused events at which they have ejected dissenters, CAFE’s campus societies with almost no resources manage to provide open forums where all views are welcome.

“CAFE remains fully committed to active and vibrant campus-based men’s issues outreach,” said Johnston. “But while our message is certainly making a difference, it’s now clear our long term success requires a home where programs are not subject to harassment or the threat of cancellation. Ironically the current situation makes the case perfectly for Men’s Centres.”

CAFE encourages all concerned citizens to continue making financial contributions – which will continue to be matched by a donor until September 30 – to the Campaign to Establish the Canadian Centre for Men and Families. The Campaign will be discussed at this Friday’s aptly named event, “Caring About University Men: Why We Need Men’s Centres in a Time of Crisis,” featuring Dr. Miles Groth, Editor of the journal New Male Studies.

CAFE Spokespeople and Dr. Miles Groth are available for commentary.

CONTACT
Amber Taylor, Media and Public Relations Director
Canadian Association for Equality
info@equalitycanada.com
416-479-0718

I am not sure about you, but I sent them some money in the hopes that they would be able to get enough to pay for the security deposit. Hopefully the fact that we need to pay security for protection from violent protesters convinces the U of T administration of the need for a Men’s Centre on campus. Or to reconsider how they treat the women’s center and it’s actions.

http://blogs.laweekly.com/informer/2013/07/brian_lynch_world_market_apology.php

Seriously? That guy in the video who would rather “err on the side of caution” because of today’s society? Let’s kick men out of stores just in case they might be child molestors, that sounds very reasonable. /sarcasm

The media paints men as the violent ones and women as the victims, that men are the pedophiles, that men can’t be good fathers because fathers are clueless, useless, inept, and besides… mothers are always the ones doing stuff with the kids, never the fathers. This sort of misandry, this sexism against men really needs to stop for it is hurting innocent men and children.

http://scienceblogs.com/pharyngula/2013/08/15/the-economics-of-menstruation-and-the-short-sighted-reductionism-of-capitalism/

In short, scientists find 28 day “menstrual” pattern in female absenteeism, showing that this causes women to miss 73% more work than men do. This, according to the article, could easily explain the 11.8% of “wage gap” with this fact alone.

The author if the article, PZ Myers calls for female subsidy

of course society and employers should subsidize biology: their employees are all biological organisms!

And

I think that’s the fundamental problem of this paper and many others like it. It looks at human beings as numbers in a spreadsheet, and assesses them statistically by their contribution to corporate “success”, as measured entirely by short-term profit to the shareholders and management.

According to Myers, corporations should not see people in terms of productivity, but instead should see people in terms of gender: reward women more for less work … because “biology”! He calls for a special tax on men, to compensate women for the productivity that they fail to provide to employers because of their fragile gender.

Suicide rates per 100,00. I honestly want to be eloquent and verbose and I try to explain this… but to be honest, this graphic is hard for me to process. Look a the rate of suicide for men compared to women (forgetting the racial aspects, especially...

Suicide rates per 100,00. I honestly want to be eloquent and verbose and I try to explain this… but to be honest, this graphic is hard for me to process. Look a the rate of suicide for men compared to women (forgetting the racial aspects, especially since native american men suicide at even greater rates than white men). Men are killing themselves and there is virtually no help for them out there. 

I want to say that men are only killing themselves at a higher rate than women due to an increased national awareness and increased resources intended to help women from suicide, whereas that is virtually no help targeted or geared towards men. But according to this study by the CDC, suicide seems to be on the top 10-15 causes of death since at least 1958, with gendered statistics beginning in 1971 with suicide being the 9th leading cause of death for men and it not being on the list at all for women. The first crisis helpline in the US started in 1974. 

All of which seems to strongly suggest that men have always been more apt to kill themselves than women are, and yet, all our resources go towards keeping women alive, not men.

This video reminds me of one of the most frustrating parts of trying to make these points to certain people: tell them about the problems that men face in society and you will be told that these problems are a result of misogyny. No matter what problems anyone faces, no matter who they are, it all comes back to that. Or that it is due to the patriarchy backfiring, or similar.

Lets look at male rape, shall we?

So, we all know that if you look at the CDC’s 2010 report that shows that rapists are roughly 40% women, and that roughly the same amount of men were raped in a single year as women were raped in a single year (not counting the prison population, which raises the amount of male rape victims considerably, making men more likely to be raped than women)?

Lets look at some more statistics on male rape.

Study of 7,667 university students from 38 sites: 3.0% of men reported forced sex (of which 2.1% was forced vaginal sex… this is in fact men reporting victimization by women) and 22% of men reported verbal sexual coercion. 2.3% of women reported forced sex(of which 1.6% was forced vaginal sex) and 25% of women reported verbal sexual coercion

Study of US college women - 12% of the respondents reported ever using any type of force strategy while 43% reported using a coercion strategy and 92% reported using a seduction strategy to initiate sex.

Force strategy, that is a very interesting way to refer to rape.

Rape in the military is rampant, and it affects more men than women due to their disproportionate numbers.

National statistics approximate that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes.

Men often coerced into sex: study

Predictors of Sexual Coercion Against Women and Men: A Multilevel, Multinational Study of University Students

Yet when rape is discussed in the public sphere, it is always the men that are painted as the rapists and women that are painted as the victims. Jokes about males being raped aren’t just common and accepted, they are expected. Men are taught to follow the rules or they will be punished by rape in prison, “Don’t drop the soap!” even though most men raped in prison/jail, are raped by female prison/jail staff.

Among inmates reporting staff sexual misconduct, ~ 65% reported a female aggressor (A few highlights)

Female inmates in prison (4.7%) or jail (3.1%) were more than twice as likely as male inmates in prison (1.9%) or jail (1.3%) to report experiencing inmate- on-inmate sexual victimization.

Sexual activity with facility staff was reported by 2.9% of male prisoners and 2.1% of male jail inmates, compared to 2.1% of female prisoners and 1.5% of female jail inmates.

Up to 15.7% of US prisoners experience rape in 12 month period

Men Outnumber Women Among American Rape Victims(about prison rape)

The Justice Department came up with a new number: 216,000. That’s 216,000 victims, not instances. These victims are often assaulted multiple times over the course of the year. The Justice Department now seems to be saying that prison rape accounted for the majority of all rapes committed in the US in 2008, likely making the United States the first country in the history of the world to count more rapes for men than for women.

94% of sexually abused youth in correctional facilities reported being abused by female staff. Only 40% of the staff is female.

2004 Study of teacher sexual misconduct. Those that are punished/reprimanded (96% male, 4% female) and those reported by students (57% male, 43% female)

3 in 4 B.C. boys on street sexually exploited by women

65% of the survivors who tried to tell a therapist, doctor, teacher or other professional were not believed the first time they disclosed. Overall, 86% of those who tried to tell anyone were not believed the first time they disclosed.

Statutory rape victims forced to pay child support

Female Pedophiles Cause Children More Harm, According to Research by University of Bergen, Norway

According to multiple studies, 59% to 80% of male sex offenders were sexually abused by females.

59% of the rapists had been heterosexually molested.

Other studies showed: 66% (Groth, 1979) and 80% (Briere and Smiljanich, 1993).

These studies are cited and discussed in: Matthews, Frederick. The Invisible Boy: Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens. National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, Health Promotion and Programs Branch, Health Canada (1996)

This 25 page review on the issue of female sex offenders, discusses male sex offenders having been sexually molested by women on page 20, the relevant bit starts in the 3rd paragraph from the bottom, after the name Matthews.

Male penitentiary inmates reported higher heterosexual contact as children than did college men.

From the study:

15.88% of college men

45.75% of prison men(overall)

56.92% of rapists

36.96% of child molesters

47.27% of non-sex offenders

And yet, despite all of this, 99.6% of all people incarcerated for rape are men. 

We need to start putting away female rapists, much like we currently put away the male ones.

Rape is never justified, against anyone. My point is that for many rapists it appears to be behavior learned through personal experiences. The only obvious interpretation of this point, at least to me, is that we need to stop both male and female rapists to decrease the number of rapists.

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Absolutely not. And yet…

That’s the hope of a 38-year-old woman who is a client of Ronald G. Lieberman, a family law attorney in Haddonfield, N.J. Mr. Lieberman is asking his client’s soon-to-be-former husband of eight years to pay $20,000 to cover her egg-freezing procedure, medication costs and several years of egg storage. “When they got married, the expectation was they would start a family,” he told me. “Now she might not have the chance much longer.”

The concept here is that since she entered the marriage with the belief that she would be able to have children because of it, the attorney’s argument is that the soon to be ex-husband needs to pay for in vitro. In short, since he is not fulfilling his side of her imagined contract, he needs to pay to have it provided for her.

I wonder how quickly it would be shot down by the court if he suggested something similar, that he entered the marriage with the belief that he would be having regular sex and due to this, he needs for her to pay him alimony for dating or hiring a sex worker.

The underlying assumption here is that women are helpless children who can’t be held responsible for their actions.

They both talked like adults and agreed to have kids later. That’s not her problem. He has to pay!

Someone halfway reasonable would be to divide the costs 50/50. And apply the same rule to him. He wants to have kids and has fertility issues? He pays half, and so does she.

Instead, he’s told “pay everything” for any decision he makes, and “pay everything” for any decision she makes.

If women are such helpless children, why can they vote? Why can they sign contracts, and own property? We don’t allow children to do any of that.

These people want all of the benefits of being a minor child, with all of the rights of an adult. The trade-off is that the man gets none of the benefits of being an adult, with all of the (non-existent) rights of a child. He has to pay, but he has no choice. She doesn’t have to pay, and has all of the choice.

http://america.aljazeera.com/articles/2013/9/6/black-men-in-baltimoretaketothestreetstokeepboysinschool.html

This activism is uniquely male, with an overwhelming message, and so needed to help break the cycle of fatherless homes.

But I would be remiss if I did not showcase why this is happening:

It’s the men’s absence – particularly as fathers – that march organizers see as the primal wound that leads so many of the city’s young black boys to fail to realize their potential.


The men on the march say they are trying to fill a void that is often taken for granted. Because fatherless children and adults are so common in their communities, not having a dad carries little stigma. Several men say that the absence of a father, or of strong male figures in general, led many of them down their own criminal paths before they found their way out.


But the men insist that they can no longer be left out of the solutions, especially when they have tread this path themselves and know it well. Engaging them only through the criminal justice system or for child support fails not only them and their families, but also entire communities.


Some are fathers, there without their sons, because of a relationship gone badly with the mother or because of their own other mistakes. And many of the boys are there without fathers.


“Showing camaraderie around black men makes a difference. It says ‘men are stepping up and care in the city of Baltimore’ where the conventional wisdom is that men don’t care, especially about kids.”

Circumventing an issue is still finding a way around it, and far better than the circumspection we normally get when men’s issues are brought up.

These men might not be out and out saying “We need women to stop controlling men’s interactions with their children,” but they’re getting the message out that “Men need to have equal say and involvement in their children’s lives.”

Which is damn good, in my opinion.